This is a packet of 5 pages, and could be much better done as part of a journal. It defiantly needs much more space to be useable as a hand-written exercise. This paper packet, as is could be used as a talking exercise done in session. However, I’m not sure that it would lead to proper thinking. I also don’t know if this is where the work sheet that I was given by The Therapist. As much as I think that the format of this one isn’t great, some of the questions seem important.
Family Relationships (other then marriage):
Importance: Family is only important if you have a good one, otherwise you just have a bunch of asshats the you have to put up with. Some of use survive childhood less damaged then others.
Ideally, what would your family relationships be like?
I would have a large trust-fund. My father would always be working and mostly ignore me. My mother would be an artist and would adore me. I would be treated with respect, I would know all the right people to make my photography famous.
What personal qualities would you like to contribute to your family?
I would like to not contribute. I have already contributed to everyone in my family more then has been given me. I needed a family to raise me as a child. I did it my self.
Do you feel that you are contributing enough time and effort towards this area of you life? If not, how would you like to improve this area?
Very much too much. I have to do all the motional lifting. I really get anything back from my family.
Friendships/Social Relationship: Importance
10 on a scale of 5…
What sort of friendships would you like to have?
I want friends who will be there for me when I need them. I want to also be there for them. As Aunty acid says, a true friend is someone who knows how crazy you are and is still willing to be seen with you in public. I need friends who also share my twisted, horrible sense of humor. However, if my friends can’t deal with the bruises that I get from fun, they aren’t friends.
How can you contribute to building your ideal friendships?
Apparently the answer is some vague thing about being able to mind read, instead of learning about it. Bullshit answer. Being “not social” was the biggest problem on my IEP in school. No one is willing to explain this one to me. I was told “talk to people” worse advice ever. Would you ever tell someone struggling with math “just do math”?
Do you feel that you are contributing enough time and effort towards this area of your life? if not, how would you like to improve?
If I was putting enough effort into it, I would have lots and lots of friends. I don’t have any more time. I need to know how to do this.
What’s Important to you about your work, career, or education?
I need money to live. Money = independence. I need more money. I want more social status. Social status means more friends who are more likely to be there for you when things go wrong. I need social status to gain friends who will give me more chances to be rich enough to retire.
How would you like others to view you within you professional roles?
I want to be the person who is as known for being quiet and driven as I am for being a smart ass. I want to be the one who gets the job done correct, and always gives the promised results. Sometimes giving more then is expected.
Do you feel that you are contributing enough time and effort to wards this area of you life? If not, how would you like to improve?
I do way too much fucking work here. I spend more time looking for work then I do anything else. Soon, once I’ve moved I’ll be spending even more time on looking for work. If I’m not looking for work, and doing other required activities, I’m working on photography. This is where my energy ends up moving to.
How would you like to contribute to the community, or the world?
Fix it. I want to fix the whole thing.
What does it mean to you to be a good member of your community, or a good citizen?
Doing the minimum steps required to help people who I see, when I have the ability. I also have the responsibility to stand-up for others and myself when their rights under the law are not being respected. If my safety isn’t going to be called into question, I need to stand-up against people being treated like crap, even if it’s just being rude instead of other.
Do you feel that you are contributing enough time and effort toward this area of your life? If not, how would you like to improve?
I do this. I need to do less because my emotional safety is close to its limit.
Ideally, how would you take care of your physical health and well-being?
I wouldn’t have to choose between dizzy spells and sleeping. I would need to take frequent breaks, I would be able to work at night instead of the day. I would be able to take naps in the middle of the day instead of relying on caffeine.
Why is Physical Health important to you?
Having it increases productivity, and it’s a more comfortable place to inhabit your body.
Do you feel that you are contributing enough time and effort towards this area of you life? If not, how would you like to improve?
I would like to not be living in poverty so that I could have the time, energy and money so I could take care of my self, but I need the friends, and job so that I can do this.
What are your ideal forms of recreation and relaxation?
I like completing projects. Some of them are just fun and I enjoy doing. Others are pure relaxation. Some are also practical because they result in blankets, and food. For relaxation I love long hot showers, panting my nails (Can’t touch anything until they dry.), relaxing in a hammock and watching the trees move in the wind, or washing the clouds. I also love snugging into bed in a large morning.
Why are recreation and relaxation important to you?
It’s a time to refresh my brain/body so that I can do more work, or change the world.
Do you feel that you are contributing enough time and effort towards this area of you life? if not, how would you like to improve?
It will improve when I get a job. Focus for the moment is job.
Religion = code of values/way to police people.
Spirituality= reconciling the “spirit” without religion.
Both are useless, and I don’t need them to feel grounded in my world, nor secure in my self.
How would you describe your ideal marriage or intimate relationship?
It will be a celebration of all the people who are in it. We will be a group who cares, fucks-up, forgives, and shares. Each person will have there own special space in the relationships. It would be wonderful. I would get to join in for mornings around the breakfast table, If that is what I wanted that morning. Or, I would get so skip it, and stay in my own apartment/place.
In your ideal marriage or intimate relationship, how would you treat your partners?
(I changed the question. I will not have only one.) I would treat them with respect, while keeping a safe for me distance. They would do the same. I would be allowed in for all the fun, and allowed out when the drama was with my metamours . I would thoroughly enjoy their play with others.
Do you feel that you are contributing enough time and effort towards you marriage or intimate relationships? If not, how would you like to improve this area?
See answers for friends. I need more friends, because they become lovers.
Parenting: Never Happening.